Todd and Kay are the first international marriage I will be profiling in this series:
1) Your names – Todd and Kay
2) Your blog- Todd’s Wanderings
3) Your nationality -USA
4) Spouses nationality – Japan
5) Where do you live now? Do you live with your spouse?- Kosovo, yes with my spouse
6) Amount of time married-8 months
7) Are you still married?- yes, I hope so!
8) How did you meet?- In East Timor during the running club Hash House Harriers
9) What was the biggest impediment to getting married?- We move country every 2 years
10) Where did you get married?- US with a appropriate receptions in Japan afterwards
11) What was your marriage ceremony like?- Ceremony was on the end of dock, in a marina surrounded by the ocean. It was a Christian wedding as it was from a minister but he made it interfaith so that we would both feel comfortable
12) How is the relationship with your in-laws? Great. I love them and they are really happy that I can speak Japanese.
13) What about your spouses with your family? They love each other, no problems at all.
14) What was your biggest cultural misunderstanding? Can’t say that we have had one as we have both lived for extended periods of time in the other’s culture. Maybe expectations over how much to clean the house…but that could just be a guy and girl thing.
15) Can you tell a funny story about a cultural mishap? Again, I don’t think we have one.
16) Have you traveled with your spouse? yes, we travel all the time. She is also in international development working for the UN so we are often in different countries.
17) If so, has it been challenging? Why? Nope, not a challenge. But we have had to adjust to how the other travels. I like it cheap and dirty and she like hot water. I have become used to paying the extra money for hot water.
18) If not, why not?
19) Do you have children? If so, what is that like, internationally
speaking. Nope, no children yet.
20) If you don’t have children, why not? Do you plan to? Plan to have children but we just got married 8 months ago…back off and stop pressuring us ;)
21) What is the best and the worst thing about international marriage? The best thing is that she understands the two sides to my personality (US and Japan). The worst is not being close to either family and always having to choose which one to visit.
You can read about Todd and Kay’s engagement in Sri Lanka at
Read about Todd and Kay’s Wedding at
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